NOW: let me ask you a personal question.
Do you ever feel, deep down, like you're
'lagging behind' where you THOUGHT you'd be by now
in terms of men and relationships?
Do you try to 'be yourself' with men, only to
have them eventually lose interest?
Do you feel sometimes as though your only real
option is to follow 'rules' with men ... or to play
hard to get ... even though you wish this wasn't the
case?
Do you know how to 'attract men', but not
attract the RIGHT MAN for you?
Or maybe you've attracted the right man in the
past, but you didn't recognize him as 'the right
man' for YOU, and so you let him go ...
... and you're now wondering if you'll ever have
a chance with him again (or indeed, if you'll ever
find another 'Mr Right' for you?)
That's a lot of questions, I know. But in my
experience, most - if not ALL - women have
experienced AT LEAST one of these heart-wrenching
situations first hand (and usually, more like two
or three.)
It's not surprising that so many of us feel
'screwed up' about men and love. Lots of women
feel as though we can no longer trust our own gut
instincts. We've been so scrambled up over time,
from 'mixed messages', men who 'don't know what
they want', and GREAT relationships that
inexplicably turned SOUR over time ...
... that most of us would love nothing more than
a little common sense, a little advice, and a few
practical tips that can help us all to transform
our love-lives, get us in touch with the radiant,
beautiful, IRRESISTIBLE female who lives inside us
all, and allow us to take the pressure OFF
ourselves and just enjoy where we are and who we
are, RIGHT NOW.
(By the way ... have you ever noticed that, when
you're LOOKING for love, it very rarely actually
shows up ...
..but, when you get busy and focus on YOU and
YOUR OWN LIFE, and really get enthused about
yourself and just about FORGET about 'looking for
love'...
..someone out there will notice how happy you
are, and want a piece of that for themselves?
Ironic, isn't it?)
The next few days are all about shucking off
the limiting beliefs that are 'crippling you' in
dating and relationships, and about getting in
touch with what REALLY WORKS in terms of life,
love, and pure simple attraction.
A large part of this course is going to be
focused on enlightenment. This isn't about playing
games or manipulating people.
I've found that, when you rely on RULES and
GAMES to get interest or get a man, what ends up
happening is this: YOU'RE flat-out exhausted (from
trying to sustain that charade) ... you've got a
relationship that's good on the SURFACE (but
that's based on a lie) ...
... and sooner or later, it all goes up in smoke.
And then it's back to Square One.
You deserve a lot better than this.
And frankly, the fact that you want improve
your situation proves that you're too SMART to
rely on games (read: LIES) to 'get a man'.
Instead, how about this: you instinctively KNOW
how to act in ANY SITUATION around men ... you never
have to consult a 'rulebook' or memorized
guidelines ... you're always able to be
authentically YOU ... your relationship keeps
getting better and better ...
... and you NEVER have to experience that awful
phenomenon known as 'he just lost interest
somehow' EVER AGAIN.
My guess is that you'd be pretty interested in
getting those results for yourself.
So here's the deal. Over the next couple days,
we're going to peel the shutters back and shed
some light on the simple but DEADLY mistakes that
most women make when they're trying to attract men
...
... so that you're always in control of what
happens to you ... and you're always empowered to
make the best decisions for yourself when it comes
to men and relationships.
(HINT: most of these mistakes are COMMON ... and
most women think they're actually being ATTRACTIVE
when they're making them!)
We're also going to talk about what you can do
to proactively attract more and better men - the
things you can do to attract the men of YOUR
CHOICE.
(TIP: that means, no more 'accidentally
attracting' guys you're not really that interested
in.)
We're ALSO going to be spending some time
focusing on the male brain itself:
Things like ...
- how to take a man 'off his pedestal'
- what makes a man into his mysteriously
masculine self
- the differences between men and women (and what
this means for you!)
- the principles of "catching" men, and
- the principles of KEEPING those men right where
you want them.
It's all about attracting men that YOU find
attractive, and then KEEPING the best one for
yourself - in a relationship of intimacy and
happiness that just keeps on getting better.
Not a hint of stress, anxiety, or 'settling'
for a less-than relationship in sight.
First, though, let me ask you a quick question
...
Have you ever thought to yourself, 'Sure, I'm a
pretty confident woman' ... and you find it easy to
flirt with what some women call 'frogs' (i.e. the
men you're OK with 'practicing on', but who you're
not actually INTERESTED IN) ...
... but the moment that someone you genuinely
find ATTRACTIVE shows up, all that nerve and all
that courage just go right out the window ... and
you find yourself getting tongue-tied and nervous,
or acting strange and stilted?
This is what women do when they feel 'less
than' on some level. They end up putting guys on a
pedestal, and unknowingly SABOTAGING their own
success.
After all, it's pretty difficult to create
quality, loving, intimate relationships if the
whole time you're feeling as though he's somehow
'socially superior' to you - almost as if he
OUTRANKS you.
This is what I'm talking about when I say,
"Take the men off the pedestal." Get it into your
head that they're nothing to be afraid of!
The best way to do that, I find, is to give
yourself the right to be a little irreverent of
what other people (especially men) both THINK and
WANT.
That's not to say that you should turn into one
of those bitter, jaded-type women who think that
'they always come first' or that 'I'm owed a
relationship' or 'who cares what anyone else
thinks' ... but let's be honest here.
There are MANY women out there who feel, deep
down, as though 'a relationship' is what they
REALLY NEED in order to be fulfilled and happy as
a woman ...
... not realizing that it's EXACTLY this attitude
that's getting in the way of creating healthy,
happy relationships with top-quality men.
They end up putting way TOO MUCH emphasis on
what guys want and need, and it ends up REPELLING
the best ones.
They end up forgetting about who THEY are and
what THEY want ... and focus entirely on 'the
relationship' and 'what he wants' ...
... in the process, leaving things like their OWN
lives, their OWN interests, and their OWN friends
and family completely off the radar.
This is unhealthy, and will effectively cripple
any relationship you attempt to have with a man.
There is a better way, and I'm privileged to
show you how.
(The next couple days will go far towards
providing you with the knowledge of 'how men
work', and what YOU NEED, in order to create - and
maintain - GREAT relationships.)
Oh, and one other thing ...
It's ALSO time to contradict some of the damage
that's been caused by all the RUBBISH that's
currently in circulation about attracting men.
I bet you know what I'm talking about here ...
... all those "dating gurus," information
portals, online e-books, and downloadable
interviews that talk about RULES for attracting
men.
For example ...
- Don't make eye contact.
- Never have sex on the first date.
- Don't be too funny or witty around him until
you figure out what he wants.
- Overweight has no place in the dating game.
- Go with the flow and let him set the tone.
This is absurd!
Not only is it MASSIVELY limiting, but these
kinds of beliefs are DEFINITELY not conducive to
the sort of healthy, fun dating attitudes that
will support your lifestyle as a smart, sexy,
irresistible person - and that will attract a GREAT
man into your life.
(SIDE NOTE: Playing by 'the rules' does, in
fact, attract some men. BUT: it attracts a certain
TYPE of man who is generally NOT the kind of man
you actually WANT to attract. Side effects of
using 'the rules' to get a man include low-grade
relationship quality, feelings of insecurity and
emptiness, and constant feelings of
dissatisfaction.)
And now ...
Let's get down to the real meat. It's time to
take a look at what you'll be learning over the
next week.
Over the first three days of your course, we're
going to be looking in-depth at three of the most
important principles of successful dating and
relationships. And in the final days of your
course, we'll look at how to APPLY those
principles to your dates, and to your
relationships.
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