Saturday 17 March 2012

SEXY WEDDING HAIR-STYLES I LOVE

SIDE RAPS OR CURLS

 YES YES YES, FINALLY A LOOK THAT BRINGS OUT FEMININITY BUT STILL HAS A STRONG STATEMENT, ISN'T THIS SEXY??????
 If you don't want to go through the conventional styles, this is a good choice for you...
 I Totally Love this, it'll suit any shape of face, and its delicately beautiful, just like a bride is meant to be....
 cute, and nice...
 Now this is it!!!!
 Grecian Hair Styles are always elegant and beautiful, but the trick is, you need to get it right, and if you do, you'll have to be awarded stunning Bride of the year...
 I am definitely doing this hair styles for my wedding, it speaks to me, or rather about me. It's sleek, neat, curvy, delicate, and beautiful...lol, big Grin...

Well, Well, Well, its ok sha, maybe if the Model was a bit younger the style will appeal to me more...

CASE FOR CONCERN: WEDDING HAIRSTYLES...LOL

UP-DO's
 I personally like up-dos( Hair Packed up) because they give you a look of innocence, sophistication, pureness, elegance and it makes you look younger and slimmer with longer neck...

You can never go wrong with parking your hair up for your wedding...
 Lovely and sleek...
 This Particular Hairstyles not fit everyone's face...
 This also is nice, you can tell alot of what was put into it, but not sure it looks like present day hairstyle...
 i like,,,



 This look, if not careful might look old-fashion and tacky,,,


























DOWN-DO's
Parking your hair all back in a nice nut has the same younger look effect, slimmer neck and body, innocent look, etc...























PART (2) TRUTH ABOUT HOW MEN THINK

CONTINUED FROM PART (1)...

1. DON'T BE WISHY-WASHY.

  Have you ever noticed that, in conversations,
there is usually a tone-setter and a reactor?

The tone-setter is the one who sets the tone
and the mood. They create reactions in the other
person through their use of language,
conversational topic, and physical cues. They may
be making jokes, but not laughing at them; they
may be telling stories, but refraining from
responding to them.

  The other person is the reactor. They're the one who reacts more - they're usually laughing more than the other person and responding appropriately to the conversation of the first
person.

  In a lot of male/female interactions, the male is the one who sets the tone, and the woman is the
one who reacts to that leadership.

  This behavior is usually based in INSECURITY, and as a result, turns a lot of guys OFF. Think about it. 
For a lot of women, it 'feels' more 'natural'to not 'rock the boat' and not risk disapproval by actually having an opinion and stating it ... but I've got to say that most 'quality men' are USED to women like this, and they're BORED by them. 

(And furthermore - c'mon now! Neediness just doesn't cut it. ACTING non-needy is the first step
towards BEING non-needy.) 

Men often want more of a CHALLENGE. 

That's not to say that rudeness, brusqueness or abruptness is desirable ... but it is DEFINITELY
desirable when you're able to have your own mind and speak it, too. 

  2. DON'T EXPECT THEM TO 'GET IT' BY THEMSELVES ALL THE TIME

  Many women tend to be 'bush-beaters' - they get coy, indirect, and drop hints about stuff.
  Then, they get resentful and crabby when those hints don't get taken or acted upon. 

  Here's an idea for lasting happiness on BOTH sides: say what you mean, and mean what you say. 

  Ever been around one of those couples where the girl's always SAYING that something's OK, but you can tell -deep down - that it's not?

 I used to have friends who did that, and it always made for a very uncomfortable atmosphere when I'd hang out with them and their boyfriends. 

 They'd be too nervous to say what they REALLY felt, so instead, would SAY that something was fine ... when, clearly, it wasn't. And then, when their boyfriend went ahead and did it, they'd get grumpy and take out their mood on him by pouting, playing up for attention, and sulking.

 This is totally demeaning and NOT attractive. 

 How about this? How about getting interested in actually being STRAIGHT-UP about what you think, as and when you form that opinion?

 If you can master the art of easygoing directness, you instantly skyrocket your value in ANY social setting. Speaking your mind (tactfully) is something that not a lot of people feel capable of doing ... and as a result, you INSTANTLY seem classy, in-control, and 'real'. (Read: HOT.)


 3. KNOW WHEN TO LET HIM CHILL OUT.

  Did you know that, as women, our brains
LITERALLY never disengage?

  Studies in neurobiology have shown that women's
brains never disengage. 

  The corpus callosum (that connects the 2 sides
of our brain) is different to men's, and the result is that the left and right sides of the brain are constantly interacting, communicating, parsing meaning from the world. 

  Even when we're asleep, we're still 'working'
with our brains!Guys do not do this. Their brains can 'turn off'. 
 This may be why men like to 'unwind' by disengaging the brain and just thinking about nothing for awhile.
 Here's how this can apply to your life. Have you ever noticed that, when women come home from a  hard day at work, they want to talk about all the stuff that happened to them that day?

 Generally, discussing the day helps us to relax, put things in perspective, and get into 'recreation-time' mode. 
Men, on the other hand, often prefer a more 'meditative' approach: lots of guys like to come home and think (and, more importantly, TALK) about NOTHING MUCH for awhile. 

If you want to INSTANTLY IMPROVE relations with the guy in your life, try giving him at least - at
LEAST! -  half an hour of silent, unbothered 'fire-gazing time' without interruption. 
Not to call too heavily on history to explain current events, but ...

In pre-historic times, men did chilled out and 'got perspective' literally by gazing into the fire. They would sit there in silence, enjoying the flickering light and the red glow from the embers, and would remain there until they felt ready to re-enter the hive of the community. 
In modern times, men do this by reading the newspaper, watching the news on TV, browsing online, or just pottering around for awhile. 

 Instead, we recognize that they're fire-gazing and allow them to continue until they feel ready to rejoin the conversation of their own accord.
Most guys would appreciate it more than they can say if you would just allow them that half-hour or so of quiet time when they come home at the end of the day before asking questions, requesting help with the dinner, or talking to them about your day. 

This is something that a lot of women struggle with, because it seems so unnatural to us. So here's a suggestion: don't knock it 'til you've tried it. Give him a kiss when he walks in the door, and then go do your own thing until HE comes to YOU.

  4. PICK YOUR 'WE NEED TO TALK' TIMES WELL...

  It JUST MAKES SENSE that, if you have something you want to talk about, that you choose a GOOD TIME to do it in.

Regardless, lots of women are driven by their EMOTIONS when choosing a 'talking time' ... and end
up picking a bad time that virtually GUARANTEES frustration for both parties. 
For example, a lot of women bring up 'issues' when they're in the car (with him driving.) This is often because there's a fair amount of 'quiet time' for the passenger when travelling together (he's concentrating; you're gazing out the window and mulling things over.)

This is when women often have 'a-ha!' moments -moments when they just feel COMPELLED to bring something up.
Unfortunately, this need often coincides with the very moment that he's trying to navigate an eight-lane 'Spaghetti Junction' of an intersection, and as a result, the opener's greeted with annoyance and/or silence. 

Other classic times that well-meaning women tend to bring up 'issues':

  - When the news is on

  - When he's reading

  - When he's just got home

  - On a tearful 2 a.m. phone call

  - In bed

  If you've got something important to discuss, choose your time well. Wait til you're both feeling relaxed and in a good mood. Wait til he's not busy doing something else. And THEN bring it up. 

A quick note: try your hardest to NEVER talk about 'difficult' (or potentially-difficult) subjects in bed. The bed that you share should be a 'safe place' where only sex, sleeping, and other fun stuff happens. If you want to keep 'bedtime' as 'cozy time', steer away from the 'difficult' conversations when in it. Oh ... and don't use phrases like 'we need to talk'. 


 5. UNDERSTANDING WINS OVER CONDEMNATION EVERY TIME. 

  Obviously, there are going to be times when a
guy's behavior leaves you feeling baffled and
confused. But here's what I recommend: don't fly
off the bat. Until you KNOW BETTER, try giving him
the benefit of the doubt.

  There are a whole BUNCH of reasons as to why this is the better alternative!

  First of all: when your guy feels like you trust and believe in him, he feels energized and motivated to do the right thing by you. Your belief in him makes him want JUSTIFY that belief.

On the other hand, beat him down with enough doubt and leaping-to-the-wrong-conclusion activity, and he's going to end up feeling mistrusted, childish, and resentful. 

You can guess what the result of this is.

Secondly: sometimes, a guy will actually deliberately TEST YOU to see how you'll react. This is often to see how much 'control' he's got over you, and/or how upset you'll get about something he's done. (The subtext, of course, is to see how much you care about him.)

 If you get out-of-control upset about something he's done, he's going to know EXACTLY where he's
got you. (Hint: that's not a good thing.) He now knows exactly what he has to do to get a reaction
out of you. (Did you know that some guys misbehave around their girlfriends just because her reaction makes him feel more cared-for?)

Thirdly: it's about respect. Your respect for yourself, and HIS respect for YOU. Think about it this way: if you're interested in top-quality relationships, you've actually got to be WORTHY of having one. 

This is isn't something you can 'fake' your way into: the kind of guy that you're interested in is, most likely, also interested in quality women.
So, getting overly upset is going to make you seem childish, immature, and out of control. In
words: UNATTRACTIVE, and NOT the kind of woman that quality men tend to go for. 

Quality attracts quality: if you want great relationships, you've got to BE GREAT. And in this case, that means remaining CALM, and steering away from condemnation. 
This isn't about 'buttoning your lip' or trying to sugarcoat the situation - if you've got a problem, by all means be open about it. 

However, before committing yourself to being emotionally offended, my suggestion is that you make the effort to understand WHY he's behaving in a certain way. 

Here's an idea: try asking him to explain why he's acting that way.  Give him the chance to explain himself. You might be pleasantly surprised- and at the least, you'll have given him the chance to correct his behavior without automatically resorting to emotional upset and hurt feelings. 

  6. DON'T LAUGH WITH YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT HOW
ILLOGICAL AND DUMB GUYS ARE.

This is a MAJOR attraction killer. It's just plain bad form to poke fun at guys for being different to women - and it also feeds that tendency to rely on stereotypes to 'explain the sexes' and build a sense of 'superiority'. Needless to say, this will do nothing but create a sense of emotional and psychological segregation, and will do nothing to build up your attraction. 


 As I've already said, men and women are
inherently different. Don't expect men to act like
we do. And when they DO act differently, give them
the benefit of the doubt ... and don't make fun. 

  Just talk to him about your expectations, and
he'll let you know whether he can meet those
expectations or not.


 7. BE FLEXIBLE.

There are a lot of times when men and women just flat-out disagree. Our gender differences are responsible for a lot of these rifts of opinion, and sometimes the disagreements can get ugly.
What I'm suggesting here is that men - just like women - want to be understood and appreciated.

Sometimes, men will not live up to your expectations or ideals. I've found that, often, women have these interior sets of ideals that they hope the man in their life will live up to.  Sometimes he will be found lacking. It's practically inevitable.
But perhaps, instead of feeling short-changed and upset, you might like to experiment with being just a little more flexible with those ideals of yours. 

It might be appropriate for you to share your hopes and ideals with your man. And if you don't feel that you can articulate them to him, maybe you should ask yourself why that is.
Is it because you know, deep down, that those ideals are unrealistic?

Try just loosening up your values a little bit.You'll probably be much happier - and, when you're happy, the man in your life will be happy, too. 

  8. DON'T ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE!

This isn't about playing hard to get ... it's about keeping your priorities straight and having the self-respect and the PASSION for your own life that's all part of being a desirable woman. 
Here's what often happens in the 'first flush'
...
 Plenty of women start off by playing "hard to get" when they're in the initial stages of dating a man. Even if they don't have a whole heck of a lot going on in their lives other than the potential new boyfriend, they make a point of ACTING as though they do.

They screen their calls, they wait a day or two before returning his calls, they go out on girls' nights to which he is not invited, and they talk enthusiastically about all the other great things they have going on in their lives.
Then, once things get even a teensy bit committed, the boundaries come down and the reality is unleashed ... and she ends up being a lot more available than the guy had actually bargained for. 

This great, independent woman that he thought he was dating has suddenly vanished ... and now all
that's left is a dependent, needy girl who wants to spend an awful lot of time with him. 

(NOTE: This is a major reason why I do not advocate the playing of 'games' when it comes to men and dating. It might attract a man in the first place ... but over time, it's simply not sustainable. And when the curtains come down, that's when he'll see you've been using TRICKS to 'get him', and he'll be OUT of there.)

So ... you don't have to become completely unavailable. However, it pays not to underestimate the simple power of taking a couple nights a week to do 'you' stuff. This'll prevent things feeling 'flat' and stale, it'll energize and revitalize both of you, and it'll give you some much-needed 'me-time'. 

  9. TALK ABOUT YOURSELF SOMETIMES - DONT' ALWAYS
WAIT TO BE ASKED QUESTIONS.

Many of my female friends moan that their dates are constantly talking about themselves.
However: I know for a FACT that a great deal of women assume the role of The Questioner without
even meaning to.
To a lot of women, it's a sign of affection and caring to ask the other person lots of questions about themselves, and to get them to open up in this way. 

Men, on the other hand, do not do this. They don't tend to barter questions back and forth. If they're asked a question, they'll view it as a sign that you want to hear more about THEM. 

In this way, the conversation can rapidly become one-sided.


  In your own interactions with men, you'll get a
lot more airtime if you just come on out and talk
about yourself, without waiting to be asked. This
shows you're gutsy, confident, and that above all,
you value yourself: you're not waiting for his
approval or validation. 

  (And in addition, it'll prevent you from
getting frustrated. Nobody likes to be in a
conversation where it's all one-sided, so take
control by yourself!)

  Tomorrow, we're going to be looking at why men
are attracted to females - some of the juiciest
secrets for making a man want you (hint: it's NOT
about looks!)








With love,
Elizabeth John

post your comments below...

PART (1) TRUTH ABOUT HOW MEN THINK

  Hey, Dear!

  Let's take a look at the 'male mind', and how a
working knowledge of it can help YOU get in touch
with your true, irresistible self. 

  Today I'm going to be typing at you about how
men really feel about women and dating, women and
relationships ... and whether all those male/female
stereotypes are actually true.


  First of all: let's deal with STEREOTYPES, and
how they can actually HARM your relationships with
men. 

  There are a lot of women walking around out
there today who have, on some level, bought into
the idea that 'Men are so-and-so'. 

  Let me give you a few examples. 

  'Men are crap.'

  'Men rule the world.'

  'Men just want sex.'

  'All the good men are taken.'

  These are all STEREOTYPES, and when you buy
into them, you BLIND yourself to the near-infinite
number of rich, satisfying possibilities that
actually exist out there, RIGHT NOW, for you to
enjoy. 

  Not only because your beliefs, to a large
extent, form self-fulfilling prophecies in your
own life ...

  ... but ALSO because men can often SENSE when a
woman is harboring a bitter and frustrated
stereotype about men, and to a quality guy, that's
pretty repulsive. 


  Let's deal with this one thing at a time. 

  If you've bought into the idea that, say, 'men
just want sex', it's not hard for you to CREATE
that prophecy for real in your own life. 
  Example: I was watching the movie 'Closer'
recently. In it, there's a scene near the
beginning where Julia Roberts' character has just
kissed Jude Law's character. During the make-out
session, she asks him if he's living with his
girlfriend. He says that she is.

  Julia Roberts then says to Jude Law, 'Men are
crap.'

  He smirks at her and says, 'All the same,
though.'

  She says, 'They're still crap.'

  For those of you who haven't seen the movie:
RUN, don't walk, to the store, rent it, and watch
it tonight. I'm not kidding. 

  For those of you who have seen it: you'll know
exactly which scene I'm talking about. 

  Now, it's true that Jude Law's character may be
'crap' (being a cheater, who just made out with
Julia, despite already having a live-in
girlfriend.) 

  BUT, Julia Roberts' character KNEW that he had
a girlfriend when she kissed him. 

  And yet, she still went ahead and kissed him. 

  Why? 

  Because she ALREADY BELIEVES that 'men are
crap.' 

  She believes, on some level, that there are NO
OTHER OPTIONS out there for her (i.e. men who
AREN'T crap) ... so she may as well make out with
Jude Law's character.

  This belief 'frees her', in some way, to make
out with him, even though she KNOWS he's taken.
And of course, acting on that belief just proves
to her, again, that it's true. ('Another man I've
gotten involved with who is, like all of them,
CRAP.')

  She's creating a SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECY, that
all men (in her life) are 'crap', by believing
that stereotype, acting accordingly, and then
buying into it when things turn out unhappily, as
she'd expected ...

  ... instead of using some self-awareness and
REALIZING that it's her own belief, in part, that
leads her to become involved with those 'crap'
men. 

  So reason one: buying into stereotypes can
influence you, UNKNOWINGLY, to cause those ugly
beliefs to actually manifest themselves in your
life. (You are creating your own reality.)

  Reason number two: women who believe bitter
stereotypes about men have a certain air about
them. Their actions and reactions are tainted with
that particular belief, and it's not hard to pick
up on. 

  Men, of course, are not drawn to this quality. 

  Think about it this way: imagine if you were
spending time with a man, and you came to realize
that he believed that women were 'only good for
sex.'

  Or that 'men are smarter than women.'

  It wouldn't be too hard to figure out that's
how he felt. Those beliefs would flavor most of
his actions towards you ... everything from how he
spoke to you to how he looked at you to how he
introduced you to his friends would SCREAM
'contempt'. 

  And I'd bet money right here and now that you
wouldn't be interested in getting to know this guy
any better, once you knew where he was coming
from. You'd hightail it out of there!

  The problem with basing your beliefs on
STEREOTYPES is that ...

  - They poison your ability to actually SEE
what's happening around you, and to act
appropriately

  - They're a form of self-fulfilling prophecy,
actually drawing people and situations to you
which uphold your (wrong and limiting) beliefs

  - They repel quality men and relationships from
you

  If you want to create fantastic, enchanting,
magical relationships, you've got to get
interested in what's REALLY going on. 

  And that means, you've got to get skeptical of
yourself. Start looking inside your own head at
what your motivations are. What do you REALLY
think about men? Could it be affecting the way you
act around them?

  Of course, yesterday, I said that you don't
need to understand men fully in order to attract
them. 

  And now I'm saying you need to 'deepen your
understanding' of what's REALLY going on. 

  Let me explain the difference. 


 Embracing masculine mystique, and burying your
head in the sand, are two completely different
things!

  You are probably never going to COMPLETELY
understand men ... but if you can at least
understand why men are the way they are in certain
situations, your path to true love is going to be
a lot smoother than it otherwise would be. 

  'Not understanding men 100%' and 'bowing out by
accepting stereotypes' are NOT the same thing. 

  Being realistic about your limitations and
being ignorant are not the same things at all!

  Here's the truth: figuring out the real, honest
mechanics of masculine behavior (including its
origins) is one of the best things you can do to
set yourself up for success in the dating game,
and to avoid heartache. 

  And that begs the question ... ARE men really all
that different to us?

  And if so, HOW? 

  This used to be a topic of some pretty hot
debate. At one time (and not that long ago), it
was extremely fashionable and 'correct' to believe
that men and women were 'equal' in all things ...

  ... that our only differences lay in our physical
topography. 

  Now, though, that theory's been blown right out
of the water.  Now we know that the male brain is
actually EXTREMELY different from the female
brain. 

  And as a result, EVERYTHING about 'how men
operate' - their values, their communication,
their basic skills - are different, too. 

  Men's brains contain approximately 6.5 times
the amount of gray matter ...

  ... the stuff needed for logic, maths, and the
processing of FACTS ...

  ... than women. 

  On the other hand, women's brains have about 10
times as much WHITE matter ...

  ... needed for language skills, communication,
and emotional fluency ...

  ... as men do. 

  To give you an idea of WHY this is (and hence,
why we are the way we are ... and THEY are the way
they are), let's take a quick look at some
background. I'm not an anthropologist, but I'll
just give you the basics. 

  Some researchers believe it's because human
evolution has naturally created two different
types of brains, which are both equally
intelligent -- just in different areas.

  In prehistoric times, for example, men were the
hunters. As a result of this, they developed
hunting brains: brains that are good at assessing
physical situations, calculating speeds and
angles, tracking and mapping the surrounding
environment. 

  See how this ties in with the modern man's
prepossession with video games, sports games,
golf, and any pastime that requires spatial and
logical ability? 

  Women, on the other hand, were believed by many
to be the gatherers and nurturers: they spent
their time raising children (communication,
language skills) and gathering berries and plants
(good peripheral vision, plus fine-motor skills.)

  So, we developed nurturing brains: brains with
bigger communication centers, with bigger
emotional memory centers, and a greater ability to
understand and reference body language and cues in
other people. 


 Our behavior, as men and women, is dictated by
our brains. And when you consider that each
gender's brain is structured so incredibly
differently, does it really come as a surprise
that our behaviors are so divergent? 

  Of course, obviously this all varies on a case
by case basis. Not all men are skilled at logic
and math, just as not all women are skilled at
emotional fluency and communication. But as a
GENERAL RULE, those are the things that each
gender TENDS TO be 'wired' to do from birth. 

  So ... does this mean that it's 'right' to
embrace stereotypes?

  Nope. This should just give you a better idea
of what the real story is as far as the male and
female brain is concerned. 

  That information can come in pretty handy when
it comes to making appropriate choices where men
and relationships are concerned.

  Let me give you a few examples of what I mean -
following are 9 tips for creating EASY and
EFFECTIVE communications with men (guaranteed to
smooth the path of true love.)

TO BE CONTINUED....

PART (2) WHAT MEN'S WEDDING RINGS SHOULD LOOK LIKE